WTH my dear sweet yet confused EX!

A few of you know my ex. He’s as sweet as can be but can be a bit clueless at times. We broke up almost three years ago, and a year later, he married someone else. Understandably, I was upset, but I stayed friends with him because when you love someone, you love them for who they are, not just their mistakes.

To be honest, I wasn’t a fan of his wife, Melissa (or Mitzi, which sounds a bit like a stripper name, in my opinion). It might have been because she was with the man I spent six years with, teaching and growing with, but that’s neither here nor there.

After a year of marriage, my ex and Melissa ended things on very bad terms, and he left her. Even though we’ve mostly kept in touch through casual texts over the years, nothing too serious, he reached out again when he decided to leave his wife. At first, I didn’t engage much, but then he begged me to call him. He wanted to talk about how much he missed me, how he hadn’t been happy since we were together, and how I was the only one who ever really loved him.

Now, let’s pause for a second. Take a deep breath, because this is where it gets crazy.

So, after all of that, he’s asking me to come see him across the country. Can you say, “What the hell?” Because I sure can.

After everything we went through—six years of living together, loving each other, making plans, paying bills, and then he just drops me and walks away. How can he come back, like nothing happened, and expect me to just pick up where we left off?

I’ve been polite, caring, and concerned for his well-being because, despite everything, I do still care for him. We’ve kept in touch, but I’m not weak. I can’t get back with someone who is still legally married, hasn’t apologized for how he treated me, and I no longer trust or love like I did. My heart has healed, and I’ve come to value his friendship, but that’s all I can offer now.

Maybe, if it’s meant to be, things will change down the road. But for now, I’m happy being with myself, growing and learning into the person I hope to be. As for him, I wish him the best and hope he finds the happiness he deserves.